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Author Topic: How long is a disciplinary/dismissal process really meant to take?  (Read 26116 times)

Preacherpauly

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« Last Edit: 13-06-19, 05:54PM by Preacherpauly »

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Please don't use that rude excuse as your defence in the investigation and certainly don't agree you think it's rude! At any time during the text exchanges, did she indicate that she was offended, upset, asked you to stop texting her, or ceased to reply. You said she just laughed...was this LOL, laughing emoji ,both, or other forms of abbreviations to indicate she found your texts funny? Did she reply in the same vein, with suggestive remarks or encourage you in any way??
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« Last Edit: 13-06-19, 06:09PM by Preacherpauly »

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if other people in the chat have made sexual remarks and you are the only one she has reported then it's obvious she's not worth talking to or going anywhere near. bit late for that now though. just learn from your mistakes

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Ye mate thanks for the advice
I am learning from this never to trust anyone again

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in my store there is only one person i can trust to say anything to and it won't go further. the only people you can really trust are true friends and family. tosco is rife for people trying to drop others in it and not being able to mind their own business. if you lose your job over this it could be a blessing in disguise mate. in future i advise you not to get involved on social media, etc with work colleagues. that's all they are work colleagues, nothing more nothing less!
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A group chat should result in a group investigation.....if, what you say is true, then you need to be asking them why you are being singled out for the investigation? If you have the texts, and her responses, and they're all as you state, then really she could end up in a lot of trouble...just because you have been accused and are being investigated, does not mean you have no rights.

Do you have representation in this meeting?
Have you spoken to a rep?
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Are you certain nobody else involved in this chat, are being investigated??
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If you are a union member, I urge you to take a rep in with you...if your colleague is to be your representative, then that colleague should be recognised as your chosen representative, and therefore, under ACAS ruling, has the same rights as a shop steward. The manager will state that your colleague is unable to speak, this is incorrect...they can speak and ask questions and adjourn the meeting, but they cannot answer questions in place of you.

Do not undermine the importance of this investigation meeting, state your case clearly, show your evidence by way of the texts. Question why you are being singled out for investigation. Read all notes thoroughly, the slightest omission should be rectified. Do not answer or ask any questions until they start note taking....the note taker is not allowed to ask you any questions, or make any comments or opinions regarding the accusation during the meeting. If they do, clearly state that you object to their speaking and ask for their comments made and your reply to be recorded in the notes....do not sign them if it is not included.

I sincerely hope that your suicide comment, is a knee jerk reaction statement and not true intent.
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Look at it from 2 positive angles, either as a result of this investigation, you'll either keep your job, or you get fired with which you can pursue an unfair dismissal claim which, if you win will get you enough money to last you for a long time while you find another job.

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Overworked1

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We all say and do things we later regret any reasonable person would just give you an earful and send you back to work. No need for endless investigations or disciplinary.  Let us know how it goes.

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I will do mate

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And did you ask for the names of these three witnesses? What do you mean "did" some of the things, was it texting or did you actually "do" something to this person ???
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